How to stop overthinking after being cheated on

Remember that it is so common to feel insecure, betrayed & overwhelmed after being cheated on.having flashback of memories when your loved one is not with you can be extremely painful.

Cheating gives a pain like a sharp knife cut, it feel like a heavy stone on a chest that compress you, you might had started thinking like what is missing in me, and started self doubt on yourself.

Being cheated can be so emotionally painful where your mind stuck in past memories and these memories are playing on repeat mode in your brain,

Replaying those memories is so much hurtful like a stabbing and crushing pain in your whole body specially on chest.

But trust me you are not alone in this struggle, daily thousands, millions of innocent people are experiencing this pain.

Fortunately there are various ways to come out of this overthinking prison. There are many great ways to stop overthinking after being cheated.

Why Am I Overthinking After Being Cheated On?

It’s important to note that overthinking is our brain’s natural process to respond to a painful and traumatic experience.

Cheating is a deeply painful and worst experience that can process a millions of thoughts simultaneously that can trigger a lot of emotions together that lead to overthinking.

Overthinking is normal and common way for our brain to try to make sense of all this, that’s why we overthink after this worst experience and thousands of questions and queries running in our head like

-What is wrong with me ?

-Why only me?

-Why he/she does this to me even our relationship was going so smoothly?

-Everything happens for a good is this quote is real???

-What will I do now?

-You may Start doubting yourself

-You may have trust issues

–why do i want to disappear?

how to stop overthinking after being cheated on?

Here are some guidance that you can follow to reclaim your inner peace, and try to silence your inner storm of thoughts of being betrayed and you will be free from loops of overthinking soon.

1. Shine a light on the shadows: the very first step to reduce overthinking is accepting what happened, accept and acknowledge yourself about this traumatic experience, accept the truth, don’t feel shame, don’t hesitate yourself for feeling overwhelmed by overthinking, overthinking is a natural response that will automatically come, understand it’s importance and it’s role in your healing journey.
2. Take a deep breath and calm down yourself: take a deep breath and analysis your thoughts process,are you still stuck in past or trying to escape from that trauma? Identity your thoughts process and start working on healing not sticking again in past.
3. Don’t blame yourself for anything: never ever blame yourself for anything, he/she had lost diamond like you for a stone, remember that.domt cry for cheap things.
4. Distract yourself from this situation and engage in activities that you loved: tap stop/pause button on your mind for overthinking and engage yourself in good and enjoyable, productive activities that demands your complete attention so that there will be no space for overthinking.

• Sweat out your overthinking by Dancing exercise, running: exercise release endorphins that decreases your pain and helps to fight with overthinking.
• Read some good and productive books: divert your mind and dive into fictional world that will reduce your pain and overthinking.
  

5. Make connection with your loved ones: remember that if you share your pain with your true ones, trust me by spending time with them, talk with them and sharing your pain and their sympathy can drastically reduced your overthinking.

6. Explore your creativity: you know you have much talent then you think,it’s time to use your talent, invest your time in art, music,dance that make you feel better.

7. Minimize the trigger: you scratch a scab ? Just like you didn’t scratch a scab to heal better and faster.same example implies here, it’s important to avoid every possible trigger that intense your overthinking.

These are the golden rules that I prefer i.e

• Limit social media: avoid negative comments, bad posts, videos that reminds you about your trauma.

• Delete his/her no: just delete their no now, delete all photos, unfollow them from all social media, block them, delete call history, and everything that reminds you about your trauma. And that reduces the possibility to reach out.
• Spend time with your friends and family: tell your loved one that please don’t gossip about my relationship and break up story and don’t bring my ex name unnecessarily.
  

8. Challenge yourself: your inner voice and will power are so much stronger than than your overthinking, use that weapon to minimise overthinking.

Mostly it whispers things like “it’s all your mistake”, “why you trusted blindly”, “you are not good enough to keep that person with you” but remember these thoughts can be minimised by feeding your mind with food thoughts like “they lost a diamond like me in search of stones”, “it’s Ok to be alone then staying in relationship with cheater”.

 

9. Consult a doctor: healing process may take some time to heal completely,and there is no shame to consult and discuss with a health care professionals. Doctor can provide you an effective treatment and can make a strategic plan for you to heal early.

 

Remember that you are not alone in this world. You have your family, friends,well wishers. And there are many resources available to help you on your healing journey.